Curbing of Desire
Avaaillaark Killaakun Thunpam Aqdhuntel / Thavaaadhu Menmel Varum
Classical English couplet — “Affliction is not known where no desires abide;Where these are, endless rises sorrow's tide”
What it says in plain words
“People free from desire are free from the pain it brings. When desire remains, that pain keeps growing.”
The classical Tamil reading
அவா இல்லாதவர்க்குத் துன்பம் இல்லையாகும், அவா இருந்தால் எல்லாத் துன்பங்களும் மேலும் மேலும் ஒழியாமல் வரும்.
An expanded Tamil interpretation
ஆசை இல்லாதவர்களுக்குத் துன்பம் இல்லை ஆசை உண்டானால், அதைத் தொடர்ந்து துன்பமும் மேலும் மேலும் வந்து கொண்டிருக்கும்
The ethical and philosophical heart
Always wanting more gives us fresh reasons to feel unhappy. One purchase can lead to wanting the next expensive thing. The couplet points to freedom from constant wanting as a way out. Letting go of desire breaks this repeated pattern of pain.
In personal life, work and society
- Personal
- You stop chasing newer phones and feel less unhappy with yours.
- Workplace
- You let go of wanting every promotion and stop feeling hurt by others' success.
- Family
- You stop wanting a grander home and enjoy time together.
- Society
- Neighbors stop competing over expensive celebrations and feel less pressure to spend.
How to apply this today
- Decision-making
- Before buying something, ask whether wanting it is making you unhappy.
- Integrity
- Let go of a desire for money that tempts you to lie.
- Communication
- Notice how often your complaints come from wanting more.
- Leadership
- Avoid feeding your team's constant desire for bigger rewards.
- Governance
- Do not let a desire for greater power drive public decisions.
For leaders and teams
Help others see when wanting more brings more worry. Show freedom from constant wanting through your own everyday choices.
Something to sit with
“What desire is bringing you repeated worry, and what might letting it go change?”